P is for Privacy

Get you some!

And no, I don’t mean a spot of your own where no one interrupts you and you can do your naked thing… I mean, yes, if that appeals and you can get it go for it, but it’s not the kind of privacy I’m talking about.

I’m talking about the kind of privacy that doesn’t see you blabbing all your practice out to the entire world. The one where you’re not a necromancer and demon summoner who has 30 kids to Loki on the astral plane, you’re just a witch or Pagan that does your thing.

There’s this horrible tendency to over share these days, especially within online communities like tumblr and facebook groups. To overshare and then get horribly butthurt when someone looks at you askew.

It’s self defeating.

Witchcraft is, at it’s core, a private kind of thing.

It’s not because there’s anything wrong with necromancy, demon summoning, or have 30 odd children to Loki (although seriously that boy is getting round…) although there will always be someone who has a fucking issue with it, but rather that it’s not anyone’s business but yours. When you start sharing this shit online you’re asking for feedback and what you get may not be what’s good for you.

On the one hand you may well be chewed into oblivion by people who think you’re insane and that can be pretty harsh to the self esteem regardless of whether what you’re putting up is insane or not (Mileage may vary, I champion my right to be a judgemental bitch, and the rights of others to do so as well. Making judgement calls is a good thing).

The other problem however is that you can get sucked into a feedback loop. You do A, those people do A as well, and you all pat each other on the back for it… and you keep doing that thing over and over. Have you ever tried to change when you’re surrounded by people who expect you to keep doing the same? It’s not easy, it holds you back and drags you down, making it impossible to learn and experience new things. It can also blind you to new incoming messages and guide you towards doing things that are not in your best interest magically…

Basically it’s a rather insidious and toxic form of peer pressure.

Developing a sense of privacy about what you do is good for you. It’s good for your practice and your growth.

Not to say you shouldn’t converse or share online. I blog for fucksake, and have… eh, more social media accounts than I care to admit really. Be particular with whom you share what however. Trust your nearest and dearest with the details if you want to, but learn to talk a bit more vaguely about the things outside of that. You can discuss techniques and beliefs without ever going in depth with your own practice – I actually highly recommend this as you can get a lot more out of a conversation where you’re not emotionally invested in defending your actual practice, but rather discussing more nebulous techniques and beliefs.

And, finally, make sure you do a check back. I’ve seen in depth details on relationships with named entities that… Would you say that about your partner in public space and expect them to not blow their shit? I’ve seen in depth takes on sexual encounters with entities written up for the world to see. Really? REALLY!?! Did you at any point stop and check in with your entity of choice to make sure it was ok to share these things? Any things actually.

Nothing gets shared on this blog without a check back. It’s either something I’ve finished working on or something I’ve been given clearance to share. The altar in the last post – totally checked in. When I talk about entities from The City – totally checked in.

Not doing so would be a huge insult to any entity I work with. I can’t even imagine an entity that wouldn’t be pissed off by some of the in depth detail people expose online. It’s not just about YOU, you are also exposing THEM. Especially if you’re naming them. Which isn’t to say that all entities will say no. Some enjoy the attention… but do be aware that others will say yes just to watch the fireworks.

Ok, so end rant. Privacy is a thing y’all.

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