Curled on a low bench seat beneath a fig tree on a warm afternoon I knew immediately that it was going to be a lovely day. We gathered to celebrate the second day of Anthesteria. Libations and wine flowed freely, food and words passed around between old friends and new.
Lovely was not the definition. It was superb. I’ve never left a gathering of magical types so very happy. Arms had been thrown open, we had been allowed to be as vulnerable as one can be with strangers (and no doubt the wine helped), we had danced and sung, cast and divined.*
At the end this little group felt more like community than any I’d dealt with before. Of course, hours after we talked of potential future rites and gatherings, they handed me a tarot deck. And how easily it flowed there under the fig, in Dionysus’ grove.
I see good things ahead. Many good things.
It’s funny how sometimes you find what you’ve been seeking where you least expect it.
*And maybe lit someone on fire 😛
I’m somewhat torn between really liking this article and wanting to slap the author upside the head. The article is coming from a really wonderfully thoughtful and sweet place. It is also incredibly respectful of the religion it writes about – being Wicca. Their points on inclusiveness and working towards making spaces more inclusive are well thought out and worth reading.
The head slap drive comes from yet another member of the LGBTQ community, of yet another minority community, being oblivious to the fact that the ‘majority’ have needs too, and that they have the right to create spaces that fulfil their needs as much as we do (I’m in under the Q if you’re desperate to know). That means that, yes, they DO have the right to cis-female or male only spaces.
Everyone has the need for safe and focussed spaces. Being cis-gendered doesn’t magically remove that need. This goes both ways. We need safe and focussed spaces, and so do they. We need safe exclusive spaces, and so do they. They have as much right to those spaces as we do.